As someone who delves deeply and often into self reflection, I see truth and value in recognising triggers for unresolved issues. With life itself projecting the core of our inner world and belief systems, how we perceive life, love and people may well be the projection of who we think we are and the relationship we have with self.
However, although I no longer view aspects of life as a personal belief system, I’ve come to know the difference between judgement, observation and discernment. I feel that judgement tends to place attachments to the “right or wrong” of something, hence stoking the inner well of unresolved issues. It’s here that the actions and behaviour of others may become a mirror to self. Yet this is where truth may also be blurred, depending on what a person considers as their truth and whether they are being true to self.
Perception may be the projection of the inner self, however as a dear friend has stated, evolvement is to recognise something we understand as either for betterment or inappropriate to our wellbeing. This is where healthy boundaries need to be put in place, and without healthy discernment, how is this possible?
I’ve come to realise that it’s only when I feel emotional attachment or a trigger to something said or done, that I am able to see my own unresolved issues and this is where healing can take place. When the attachment is resolved the judgement falls away and the trigger is no longer, but rather just a knowing of what no longer serves the higher self. This is where healthy boundaries can be put in place, with a discernment of what no longer melds with inner values and soul purpose.
In response to reflection vs discernment, a dear friend stated:
“I always try to look at my intent and avoid critical judgments.
But in discernment of other behavior, we can attach an
appropriate boundary. Consider why we are here to learn?
To become unconditional and wise, determining we can love
and be close to someone, or love someone without any longer
being part of their lives. Love and self love, together. Gandhi
forgave those who beat him, but they were not his friends.
He distanced himself from them”. Scott Dehn
And so intention is where creation begins, which is largely a projection of who we are in relationship to self and our values.